07 Jul The “LOVE” Fruit
FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT CHALLENGE
In Galatians 5:16, the word of God tells us to walk in the Spirit so that we do not fulfill the lust of the flesh. In a couple of verses further down, we learn that the fruit of the Spirit is; Love, Joy, Peace, Long-Suffering, Gentleness, Goodness, Faith, Meekness, and Temperance ~ Galatians 5:22-23.
Ladies, how many times have we given in to our flesh? Whether it was an argument that spiraled out of control, going days or hours without talking to our husbands, or whether it was just being stubborn in our marriage. In order for us to walk in love, we literally have to study the life of Jesus who exemplified unwavering love through sacrifice.
The GREATEST Sacrifice! Let’s talk about it…
Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren ~I John 3:16. No other idol that is worshiped today can stand up to what Jesus did by stepping down from the throne of heaven to live among sinners. He gave His life so that not one person would have to spend eternity without God. He went through such humiliation from being spit on, to being beaten, being ridiculed, to being nailed on the cross to die for our sins. That’s LOVE! Must Jesus bare the cross alone?
Laying down your life for someone is so much easier said than done! We do it for our children without hesitation however, when it comes to doing it for our husbands, we struggle in our flesh. We focus on what he is not doing and then we use this as an excuse to not have to lay down our lives because we believe that our husbands don’t deserve it. We feel as if our husbands aren’t worthy enough of the sacrifice. The sacrifice of doing things that we may not want to do like making love, attending to one of his family events, slaying in the kitchen a little more, listening without judgement or interrupting, or just taking the time to send him words of affirmation via text. However, we forget that we are unworthy of Jesus’ love and his sacrifice on the cross. He didn’t have to give up His life but He did. And because He did, we all have the right to the tree of life!
When we make a sacrifice with love and give up some things for our husbands we can open the door of many blessings to come in our marriage. Your sacrifices of love is not to be frowned upon and considered to be a loss. But you should look at it as a gain. You and your husband are a team. So, when he gains, you gain. When my husband and I are having a disagreement about something, I always ask him, “What’s our healthy compromise?” A healthy compromise means that he will get a little of what he wants and you will get a little of what you want as well. When I ask him this, we know that we both have to make a sacrifice in some way. One example is that my husband is hot all the time and I am very cold natured. I want the air off and he wants it on. He literally acts like he can’t breathe when it’s hot in the car or at home and he becomes frustrated. So I have learned to start asking him how can both of us get what we want and still be happy… So we were able to come up with a healthy compromise that if the air was going to be on in the car, then it had to be on 67-69. the other compromise was to actually keep a blanket in the car that I can use and yes until this day if I need to I just grab the blanket. And it’s so funny because I actually rubbed off on him and he now ask me the same question, “What’s the healthy compromise?”. We use it if we are disagreeing on anything from what type of restaurant do we want to eat at to what movie we want to watch. You can also have a healthy compromise with regards to being intimate. If you don’t feel like being intimate with your husband, come to a healthy decision by letting him know what you’re in the mood for. For example, if I’m not up to it (which is sooooo rare) I ask my husband what kinda time are we working with? I ask if we can “touch and agree” for about 10-15 strong minutes or if we need more than that I ask can we set up a time within 24 hours. Don’t knock it ladies, after all….it’s called healthy compromising!
In our marriages, we must see the opportunity to express our love by making a sacrifice. We must remember that our sacrifice sets us up for a gain in our marriage although it may look as if we are losing something. Love is about putting someone else’s needs or requests before yours. It takes constant practice. We must learn to be selfless and serve our husbands by meeting their needs through acts of service unto them with their requests. Just as Jesus served through availability, healing, ministering, and dying on the cross, we need to learn to serve in the same manner. Your cross can be waking up early to be intimate with your husband, allowing him to have the last word for once, or letting go and finally deciding to trust him in a specific area. I invite you to ask God to help you make sacrifices that will minister love to your husband. Bare your cross and allow love reign in your heart!