08 Sep Is It Half Full or Half Empty?
Is it Half Full or Half Empty?
Ladies, in order for you to be victorious in the face of adversity of your marriage, it has to start with changing your perception. You cannot defeat the enemy by having a preconceived notion that you’re already defeated. God will meet you at your level of expectation.
Let’s look at a summary of Joshua and Caleb’s visit into the promise land…
God used Moses to lead the children of Israel out of Egypt. A land where they were being mistreated and considered to be slaves. After the children were delivered out of Egypt, God spoke to Moses and gave him instructions to send 12 spies to search the land of Canaan. He wanted a report on the land but he also told the spies to be of good courage and to bring back fruit of the land. It took 40 days for the spies to return. They returned and then started telling everyone that the land flowed with milk and honey and they brought back fruit. Then 10 of the spies begin to tell them that the people were strong and that they could not go up against them because the men were of great stature and they were like grasshoppers to them. They were trying to persuade everyone that they would be defeated. The other 2 spies Joshua and Caleb spoke up and told Moses that they could go and overtake the giants and possess the land. The children of Israel sided with the 10 spies and begin to murmur and complain. They said that they should have just stayed in the land of Egypt and died. The children of Israel provoked God until He made a promise that they nor their children will enter into the promise land and they would wander in the wilderness for 40 years and wither away. But His promise to Joshua and Caleb as well as their descendants was that they would see the promise land and they did! (Refer to Numbers Chapter 13 & 14)
This story in a nutshell is about the lack of faith, trusting in God, and changing your perception. Joshua and Caleb had the faith that even though they would be faced with giants who were men of great stature, they could still defeat them because the Lord thy God was with them. They were the only two out of the twelve spies that were trying to persuade the children of Israel that they could be victorious. All 12 spies were exposed to the same thing and 10 of the spies came back with a bad report. They saw the glass as being half empty unlike Joshua and Caleb who saw the glass as being half full. They had a different perception because they had seen the miracles and the power of God demonstrated and what He had already done for them. The children of Israel’s response grieved the heart of God and He was provoked to judge them. They developed a preconceived notion that they were already defeated because of the size of the giants.
When we are faced with life situations or marital problems that are just too big for us to handle, we must remember that they are just right for God. In addition, we have to let go of the defeated mindset that our marriage is doomed and believe that God will take down the giant no matter the size. We must get rid of the preconceived notion that we got from our family or friends because they faced the same type of problem in their marriage and it didn’t work out. We must see the glass as being half full and not half empty. Even when you have others trying to convince you by telling you what they would do in your situation or whether or not they would pursue the giant that you are facing, do not others to change your perception. Don’t allow someone’s bad report to taint God’s good report. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things ~Philippians 4:8.
One of the first things that God changed for me about my husband was my perception as to how I saw him. I can remember one day dropping our son off when we were separated and in that very moment the Lord took the scales off of my eyes to see my husband as He saw him. From then on, He begin to turn my heart towards HIM and with that my faith was activated. It was activated to believe that God was going to restore us.
One of the most unpleasant things that we can do is grieve the Holy Spirit with our complaining and murmuring. Every time I read the story of children of Israel, I am convicted about murmuring and complaining. God does not like it at all! As believers, we have to tread carefully and be very mindful of this. It’s so easy to fall into this temptation. It’s so easy to look at the glass as half empty instead of half full. The children of Israel murmuring and complaining didn’t just affect them, but it affected their next generation as well. Every one of them and their descendants died off in the wilderness. Our complaining affects more than just us. It affects everyone attached to us and who God wants to bless through us. It affects our children because they can grow up fighting the same murmuring spirit that you fight because of what they have been exposed to. Instead of complaining we need to show them how to trust God and how to believe in the good report of the Lord. We need to teach our children that He is with us even in the face of adversity.
As a little girl, I saw my mom worry a lot. She’s a believer and she knows Jesus. I saw her praying a lot and I can even remember her red robe that she wore to bed praying. But she struggled in some areas and it led to her worrying and over analyzing a lot about things. Since this is what I saw, this was my first response to situations in my life. I had to learn how to put my trust in God completely and rest in the good report. I had to develop a new perception and start seeing the glass as half full instead of half empty.
I encourage you to do a check in your spirit. Assure that your trust is in God to bring healing and restoration to your marriage. Believe that God will meet every need in your marriage no matter the giant that you are facing. Be watchful of your murmuring and complaining that you do about your husband or your marriage. Change your perception by taking on Joshua and Caleb’s mindset. Have faith that you will see the promises of God in your marriage and that He will allow you to overcome the obstacle no matter the size. Have faith that you will see Canaan in your marriage!