30 Jun Attend Upon HIM
TITUS 2 WIVES
ATTEND UPON “HIM” WITHOUT DISTRACTION
I Corinthians Chapter 7 (34) The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in the body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. (35) And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
Now that we have discussed all of the qualities described in the book of Titus with regards to being a godly wife, we can turn our attention to the latter part of the organization’s mission statement which is to “Attend Upon the Lord Without Distraction!”
In order to be successful in your God-given assignment of being a virtuous wife, we have to learn the art of “Attending Upon HIM”. The HIM that I am referring to is God, of course. The Apostle Paul tells us in I Corinthians 7:34 that it is the unmarried woman that focuses on the things of God and how she may aim to please HIM by being holy. Yet, the married woman focuses on the cares of the world and how she may please her husband. Then Paul goes on instructing wives that they as well are to attend upon the Lord without distraction.
A distraction is defined as anything that prevents someone from giving full attention to something or someone else. The most common distraction that the enemy will use is your very own husband. The enemy plots to turn wives against husbands and vice versa in order to prohibit the will of God from being done in their lives. He fights against the union that God has joined together. Satan has certain systems that are set up for your demise in your marriage. This is why we cannot be sleep when it comes to our marriage. You must be fully alert in the spirit. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour ~I Peter 5:8. Most of you all know that my husband and I honor Friday to be our date days. It is important that we all be intentional to commit to a day to invest in our marriage. I noticed that it was becoming a pattern for our marriage to be under attack coming up towards Fridays. One Friday morning, we started bickering about something so petty that I don’t even remember what it was about. So, I went outside barefooted and all so that I can have a talk with Jesus. I was pacing back and forth having a full conversation. Then He dropped a scripture in my heart, Submit yourself unto God, resist the devil, and he will flee ~James 4:7. He also told me that the enemy was trying to ruin our date days. I went back inside the house and shared with my husband what God had revealed to me and we were able to start over and enjoy our date. But this made us conscious moving forward to be watchful of the enemy’s plots to destroy something that we truly enjoy. The enemy was trying to set up a system to destroy date days and destroy us in the process. This is why our spiritual senses have to be sharpened as wives to be able to recognize the enemy and stop him in his tracks. I absolutely love date days and I love my husband even more for being so willing to invest the whole day in our marriage!
To attend upon the Lord means that your eyes are set on Him ALONE. So many times, we can miss it and have our eyes on our husband faults and what he’s not doing. But you are going to be judged by what you did and your husband is not going to be with you at the judgement seat of Christ. You have to have a laser focus in your marriage, not looking to the left nor to the right but keeping your eyes straight ahead on Jesus. You are not united in holy matrimony just for yourself. The bonus that you get from a marriage are things like date days/nights, picnics at the park, companionship, friendship, intimacy, connection, and growth. But even as a married couple, you have an assignment from heaven to attend to. As long as you and your husband are fighting in the ring match, then you will never get to fulfill that assignment. If the enemy cannot stop you, he will sure try to drain you. He does not play fair. He doesn’t care if you start off a being loving couple. He seeks to destroy your finish! The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly ~John 10:10 Do not allow the enemy to have you forfeit what God has for your marriage. Women by nature are emotional creatures and we can tend to deal with our emotions on our sleeves. When issues comes up in a marriage the enemy will try to wreck havoc in our emotions causing you to focus on the constant battle between you and your husband. Stay the course, look straight ahead!
Amongst bickering with one another, the enemy can use distractions such as unforgiveness, resentfulness, lack of trust, being a busy body, and of course this can lead you to invite unwanted guests into your marriage. The enemy seeks whom he may devour. If you are hurting from pain in your past, then you have got to put that on the alter and ask God to heal your brokenness. But you cannot allow the enemy to consume your thoughts or let your actions be guided by whether or not your husband is being good to you today. To attend upon your husband is to attend upon God’s business. So do it without being distracted. Remember that we are to demonstrate the agape and unwavering love of Christ. The enemy can also use our own agendas and our careers by having you pursue things that he never told you to do. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a wife having dreams and setting goals. However, you have to be attentive to God to ask if what you are pursuing is His will or yours. You cannot neglect the vision that God has placed in your husband’s heart. I can remember when I enrolled in grad school and did really well the first semester. I even went into the second semester and I was doing good but I became so frustrated. I felt God tugging on my heart because what I was doing was not in His will. I even asked God for a sign and He gave it to me in my first semester but I ignored it. I thought that I would just keeping going and graduate, then afterwards I would focus on what God told me to do. So, I would have been rebellious on God for a whole year and a half. Thankfully, I yielded to the voice of God and when I finished that semester, I withdrew and did not look back. I do not have any regrets because I was obedient. To be successful is to be in the will of God. To be outside of His will is dangerous. We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps ~Proverbs 16:9. We have to attend upon HIM without distractions and allow Him to direct us on our next moves in life.
This week, examine if you are being attentive to God. Ask Him to reveal distractions to you so that you can remove them. Don’t allow bickering, unforgiveness, busy body behavior, anything, or anyone to be a distraction in your marriage. Become a master at rebuking the enemy and open your spiritual eyes to his patterns. Practice submitting yourself unto God, resist the enemy’s distractions so that he will flee. Remember to attend upon your husband is to attend upon the Lord.